Problems, What Problems?

The definition of a problem is “a matter or situation regarded as unwelcome or harmful and needing to be dealt with and overcome”. A problem is essentially a set of circumstances that we don’t want or would like to reject. Unquestionably there are circumstances that threaten our lives or the lives of those

Your Wildly Important Goals

There is a quote: “In the absence of clearly defined goals, we become strangely loyal to performing daily trivia until ultimately we become enslaved by it.” Most people want to accomplish something important on a daily basis.  Happiness studies suggest all of us are happier when we can achieve some progress towards our

Going Somewhere, Going Deeply

My business is called “Pursue Your Path”. There are two parts to “pursuing your path”. One involves going somewhere. The other involves going deeply. Living a truly fulfilled life involves both.  Everyone needs a map and a commitment to a course of action.  That’s ‘going somewhere’.  That’s what most people expect when they

The Paradox of Fulfillment

Fulfillment is defined as satisfaction or happiness as a result of fully developing one’s abilities or character. The authors of “Co-Active Coaching” write: “The paradox of fulfillment is that it is possible both to have a sense of inner peace and to experience an outer struggle at the same time.” If you are

When Grief Clings

In Dan Siegel’s “Mindsight” he says, “Grief allows you to let go of something you lost only when you begin to accept what you now have in its place.” Grief clings to us when we fixate on the hole in our lives. Something or someone we were attached to is gone.  We feel

The Role of Detachment

Detachment has a bad rap.  It can mean either being objective-or being aloof. In coaching, it means something much more positive. A coach is supposed to be passionately concerned about a client being able to fulfill his or her agenda, and to be curious and interested about a client’s process. However, a coach

Coaching My Mechanic

Late Friday evening before the July 4th weekend, I picked up my car from Sergio, our local mechanic/garage owner in St. Paul. (Sergio’s in the blue shirt 🙂 He asked if we had any special weekend plans, and I asked him about his plans. Sergio works 6 days a week, 11 hours a