It’s been estimated that to become a master at any activity, you need to put in 10,000 hours of practice.
Fortunately, to have a close friend, it takes considerably less time.
Or so says a University of Kansas study which found that it takes 50 hours of socializing to go from acquaintance to casual friend, and an additional 40 hours to become a ‘real’ friend. At a full 200 hours of investment (the equivalent of five 40-hour work weeks !), a relationship becomes a close friendship.
The definition of friend is a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations.
People with friends tend to live longer. But perhaps more important (as anyone with one or more close friends knows), the quality of life is significantly enhanced. Sharing-in a reciprocal way-your challenges, joys, and sorrows with someone who simply likes you for you, is one of the great ‘lighteners’ of life.
Let us remain open to those relationships that could go from acquaintance to casual friend, casual to real, and real to close…
May we pursue our paths during the holiday season taking the opportunity to appreciate and spend time with people who lift our spirits,
One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.
Lucius Annaeus Seneca
The strong bond of friendship is not always a balanced equation; friendship is not always about giving and taking in equal shares. Instead, friendship is grounded in a feeling that you know exactly who will be there for you when you need something, no matter what or when.
A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself.
It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.