Life’s big events-births, deaths, marriages, and graduations-all have some aspect of ceremony or ritual attached to them.
However, unless you belong to a group where rituals are important, there are not many consistent opportunities in adult life to acknowledge smaller successes and setbacks.
Yet most of life is made up of smaller setbacks and successes. We understand that children need recognition of these events. The lost tooth requires a ritual of leaving the tooth under the pillow for the tooth fairy. The scraped knee needs a kiss, along with a bandage. The perfect paper needs a gold star.
And in Feng Shui (the Chinese art of placement), certain objects can be placed in specific areas of your home to anchor your intention in various aspects of your life.
Life is lived in small steps. If you spend all your life waiting for the big victory, you will miss most of your life. Tolstoy said, “True life is lived when tiny changes occur.”
Recognizing, appreciating, anchoring, and applauding those tiny changes in yourself are skills you can develop. These skills have scientific support.
A study published in the Journal of Mind and Behavior showed that carrying a talisman that represents the result we desire helps us continue to make the changes we need to ensure that result.
-Are you working towards something that’s slow in coming?
-Do you need a way to remember a habit you’re developing?
-Do you need more self-encouragement?
What visual or other reminders could you use to anchor your efforts?
Here are some my clients have used.
-A small stuffed lion place on a work desk to remind my client to have courage to speak up more
-A post-it note on a bathroom mirror to remind my client he does his best everyday
-A stuffed cow in a car to remind a client not to ‘have a cow’ when he’s having a bad day
-Recordings of encouraging songs to listen to in the car before an important interview
May we pursue our paths, finding reminders to support consistent effort in ourselves, and acknowledging all the tiny changes that contribute to a life well lived,