The Paradox of Fulfillment

Fulfillment is defined as satisfaction or happiness as a result of fully developing one’s abilities or character. The authors of “Co-Active Coaching” write: “The paradox of fulfillment is that it is possible both to have a sense of inner peace and to experience an outer struggle at the same time.” If you are

When Grief Clings

In Dan Siegel’s “Mindsight” he says, “Grief allows you to let go of something you lost only when you begin to accept what you now have in its place.” Grief clings to us when we fixate on the hole in our lives. Something or someone we were attached to is gone.  We feel

The Role of Detachment

Detachment has a bad rap.  It can mean either being objective-or being aloof. In coaching, it means something much more positive. A coach is supposed to be passionately concerned about a client being able to fulfill his or her agenda, and to be curious and interested about a client’s process. However, a coach

Coaching My Mechanic

Late Friday evening before the July 4th weekend, I picked up my car from Sergio, our local mechanic/garage owner in St. Paul. (Sergio’s in the blue shirt 🙂 He asked if we had any special weekend plans, and I asked him about his plans. Sergio works 6 days a week, 11 hours a

The Myth Of A Single Passion

Our culture tends to celebrate the mono-passion. We recognize the great inventor or Olympic athlete who spends virtually every waking moment working on, thinking about, or perfecting that single activity or product. We may even fantasize about chucking everything out (usually our other responsibilities) and focusing on that one unexplored or partially explored

How Being Thankful Reduces Stress

Gratitude or thankfulness gets a lot of attention in happiness studies. If the word gratitude brings up ‘should-ness’ and nightmares of writing endless thank you notes when you were six years old (as it does for my husband), please substitute appreciation/acknowledgement or some other word! People who intentionally notice and appreciate good things