The Role of Detachment

Detachment has a bad rap.  It can mean either being objective-or being aloof. In coaching, it means something much more positive. A coach is supposed to be passionately concerned about a client being able to fulfill his or her agenda, and to be curious and interested about a client’s process. However, a coach

Coaching My Mechanic

Late Friday evening before the July 4th weekend, I picked up my car from Sergio, our local mechanic/garage owner in St. Paul. (Sergio’s in the blue shirt 🙂 He asked if we had any special weekend plans, and I asked him about his plans. Sergio works 6 days a week, 11 hours a

The Myth Of A Single Passion

Our culture tends to celebrate the mono-passion. We recognize the great inventor or Olympic athlete who spends virtually every waking moment working on, thinking about, or perfecting that single activity or product. We may even fantasize about chucking everything out (usually our other responsibilities) and focusing on that one unexplored or partially explored

How Being Thankful Reduces Stress

Gratitude or thankfulness gets a lot of attention in happiness studies. If the word gratitude brings up ‘should-ness’ and nightmares of writing endless thank you notes when you were six years old (as it does for my husband), please substitute appreciation/acknowledgement or some other word! People who intentionally notice and appreciate good things

What’s Behind What You Say You Want?

Last Sunday I presented a workshop to the North Star Women Firefighters Association (and one male firefighter!) on “Authentic Living”.  Only about 3% of our nation’s firefighters are women, so as you can imagine, these were a special bunch.  Many of them are volunteer firefighters, so they can be very busy juggling other

Authenticity And Feeling At Home In The World

Many of those I coach are searching for an inner sense of home, of what they need to live well, of feeling comfortable inside their own lives.  In coaching terms, I call it a sense of authenticity. Authentic means “conforming to fact and therefore worthy of trust, reliance, or belief”.  What ways can