I frequently coach people who are going through a transition and who are debating next steps or who are ‘birthing’ a new direction in life.
If the next step feels like a radical departure in their lives (like leaving a secure job to become their own boss), it can feel especially scary.
Will I make it? Will I be a total failure? Will I earn enough money with my new solo business to make up for the job I left? Will anyone buy my product or service?
Usually they’re hoping for one magic silver bullet or that the whole magilla will be handed over to them in one fell swoop.
But birthing doesn’t usually happen that way.
(Professional actors who suddenly get famous have a way of saying it: “I worked for twenty years to become an overnight success.”) What it means is that they worked hard for twenty years before they were cast in a role that the public/media thought was a big deal. Suddenly they’re ‘known’ and they’ve become a recognized ‘name’. Their career takes off.
Real birthing of anything large in life happens in fits and starts. If you’re a mother elephant trying to birth a baby elephant, chances are that what emerges initially doesn’t even look like an elephant. (And as the mother, you can’t even see what you’re birthing from the vantage point you have…) The ‘baby’ comes out bit-by-bit, and may not even look especially attractive at first. But over time a shape emerges. Eventually it becomes a recognizable shape, and with nurturing eventually starts crawling and then walking.
So take heart. Nerves are natural. And no one births a whole new life direction all at once. You’ve made it successfully in life so far, and already survived a lot of ups and downs. You’ll get there.
May we pursue our paths with persistence and patience,