I recently listened to the story of a local, award-winning chef and restaurateur’s story. She had been an actor for some years, but had been working 5 jobs to sustain herself. While she loved acting, she eventually realized she was trying to maintain ‘something that wasn’t there’. She eventually segued into nonprofit arts management, but while she liked it, it wasn’t her passion.
She had always loved to cook, but was afraid to open her own restaurant, so she was about to sign a contract to open a fast-food chain. She and her husband sat down with a lawyer.
At the end of the conversation he said, “Look, I’m happy to take your money and go over the details of this contract if that’s what you really want. But for the last hour, all you’ve talked about is how much you love creating recipes.”
It brought her up short. Instead, she took more time to think. As a result, she researched pizza dough, and now has an award-winning pizza restaurant.
Two things were present for her to make this amazing shift.
First, she realized that she could either “live with unhappiness-or change”.
Second, she had a lawyer who essentially acted as her coach, and pointed out that she was not going in the direction of her true passion.
So here’s your tough love question for the week. If you’re unhappy with some aspect of your life, are you ready to change, or do you want to live with your unhappiness? And number two, can you change on your own, or do you need a coach to help you get where you need to go?
May we pursue our paths, knowing when to ask for help,
P.S. If you decide you want some coaching, stay tuned over the next couple of weeks when I’ll be rolling out a special “Start the New Year Right” coaching package.