If you suffer from perfectionism or anxiety and find it challenging to forgive yourself for your mistakes, I want to share something.

If you find it easier to be kind to others than to yourself, there’s something you might remember.

If you worry internally, but don’t show it on the outside until it’s nearly overwhelming, than you’re not alone.

Join the human race.

I often ask clients what they tell themselves during stressful times.  Have you ever told yourself something along these lines?

  • “I should’ve handled this better.”
  • “Why didn’t I think about this before I did that?”
  • “What’s wrong with me?  I should’ve seen this coming!”

What could you substitute for these thoughts?

What could you say to yourself that would comfort you, reduce your stress or anxiety, and treat you like you treat others?

Here are variations on what I have heard from clients that may work to reduce stress or anxiety.  (Some I have used myself 🙂

  • “It’s going to be alright.”
  • “I’m doing the best I can for right now.”
  • “It’s ok to make mistakes sometimes.”

And my new favorite from a recent client,

“Join the human race.”

We all make mistakes.  We can’t always live up to our own (high) standards.  Beating ourselves up only prolongs the agony.

So join the human race.

Be as genuinely kind to yourself when you make a mistake as you are to others who make mistakes.

Forgive yourself and move on…especially when you’ve forgotten how great a person you are.

Come on, you are great at least some of the time 🙂

May we pursue our paths, remembering to join the rest of the human race with our perfect imperfections,

Best wishes,

Elizabeth