Have you ever fallen into a rut and felt unable to move from a position, place or way of thinking? (For those of us living in extended winter, sometimes the season feels like a rut!)
More seriously, feeling stuck for a long time is one of the worst feelings.
Here are a few causes of being in a rut:
- Being unable to conceive of any alternative action
- Being able to conceive of alternatives, but feeling afraid to act in case it’s worse than what you’re experiencing right now
- Feeling depressed with no obvious cause, but it’s dragging you down
- Feeling depressed about specific relationships or career direction
- Knowing your relationships/career are or have been great but something’s missing
It’s ok to be in a rut for short periods of time. Boredom or apathy are sometimes necessary either as a resting place in the short term or to spur growth over a longer time. But staying stuck for a long time isn’t good for anyone.
The Pulitzer prize winning novelist Ellen Glasgow said The only difference between a rut and a grave are the dimensions.
May we pursue our paths, seeking appropriate help to get out of our own way,
P.S. I’ll be on the following Divya Parekh’s Beyond Confidence radio show later in March-more details to come!