As some of you know, The Concise Coaching Handbook will be in print in mid-July (if the schedule and serendipity hold, it will come out on my birthday J)
My publisher asked if I had any old blogs that referenced my book that they could re-use on their site. So, I re-read some of my old blogs. While some were familiar, many had completely slipped my mind and pertained to events and situations I had completely forgotten.
Even though I write regularly, I don’t keep a regular private journal. But somehow taken as a whole, my entries felt like a public diary of aspects of my life. I was impressed with the sense of development of thought/feeling shown in all the things I had seen and commented on.
And I felt a bit rueful. As I re-read the bits of advice, I thought, “Gee, I wish I embodied that knowledge more fully,” or “Boy, if I took my own advice, how much further along I’d be…” J
Someone recently said to me “Eternal Means Unfinished”. Eternity gets a bad rap. In fiction, vampires live forever, and many aren’t very happy about it. In the cartoon version of heaven, souls sit on clouds and play harps, forever happy. But there really isn’t a sense of growth in either case.
The first law of thermodynamics, or the Law of Conservation of Energy, states that energy can neither be created nor destroyed; energy can only be transferred or changed from one form to another.
I’m not sure the human mind can encompass the idea of eternity, but in my mind living in eternity means our energy changes over time. And the energy never stops changing and growing. One of my favorite Jung quotes is “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who we truly are.” Part of who we are may change over time, but a part of us is eternal. Even when we die, and our bodies return to dust, the energy gets exchanged and changes form. If you believe in some kind of after-life (as I do), I can’t believe that our work/our play/our sense of self stops in its development.
One of the groups I belong to meets once a month to discuss our spiritual development and how it relates to how we live life. We range in age from twenties to seventies. One woman, about to turn 40, said “I thought I’d be further along by now and have achieved more. I thought this sense of restlessness I have may have abated by now. But listening to all of you, I hear it never ends…”
We are all unfinished, certainly. Some of us believe we are eternal. If you take as true one or both of those concepts, how will that affect how you live your life? Does it eliminate undue urgency or anxiety and make you go a little easier on yourself? I hope it does.
May we pursue our paths, embracing our unfinishedness,