A friend of mine once admitted that she woke up in fear every morning. It didn’t occur to her that this was unusual or abnormal.
There are times in life where fear serves a good purpose: it keeps us alert or mindful when there are genuinely dangerous circumstances. It can motivate us to take action to keep our loved ones or us safe.
But more often, we can live with needless fear or negative fantasies. Some people say fear represents “False Events Appearing Real”.
Psychotherapist Lauren Mackler recommends a 4-step approach to that type of fear.
1. Acknowledge the fear. That which you resist, persists—and can gain more power over your life.
2. Identify the gloom and doom movie you’re running. Ask yourself what you think might happen.
3. Do a reality check. Do your fears have any basis in fact?
4. Replace the gloom and doom movie with one that supports your goals.
The most common types of fears are limiting beliefs/behaviors that keep us ‘small’ and playing inside our comfort zone. They can masquerade as excessive caution or doubts or cynicism about our chances to achieve what we want in life.
I invite you to examine and dispel those types of fears. If there’s something you want or want to do, you don’t need an entire plan in place before you take a step towards what you do want.
You only have to find—and take—that one step towards it.
And then another…
And may you pursue your path boldly without unnecessary fears!