Elephants brought up in captivity are sometimes tied to flimsy stakes in the ground.  They could easily escape because they are clearly stronger than their restraints.  Yet they don’t.  Why not?   When elephants are tiny and weak, some trainers tie them to these stakes.  The elephants never become aware that their growing

A client recently said she was afraid she feared success because of its potential trappings including increased exposure and less personal privacy.   The definition of trappings is: the outward signs, features, or objects associated with a particular situation, role, or thing.   Embedded in the word trappings is the word ‘trap’.  A

We often repeat to ourselves stories at which we should take a second look. One of my clients came to me concerned about her relationship with money.  She was torn between two opposing viewpoints.  One was a general feeling that everything would work out and that she shouldn’t worry.  In fact, she worried

Recently a friend shared a Facebook video about a Scottish woman, born in 1908 who went to Canada and fell in love with a Canadian.  When the woman returned home to Scotland to visit family, she wasn’t allowed to return to Canada and marry the man because he wasn’t Catholic.  She returned all

Recently someone claimed he was too sensitive to learn ballroom dancing.   “But all the teachers are so nice,” I said. “They never criticize and are very encouraging.”   “I know,” he moaned. “It’s just me.”   In coaching, we call that “arguing for our limitations”. You don’t really want to characterize yourself